When you have an emotional issue, can you take a moment to see how you are feeling? Not try to label it so much as see the feeling, not the word that describes that feeling. Do you want your feeling or problem wiped away, so you don’t have your brain caught up in all that? Would you like to flick a switch and have your problem disappear? Can you see this happening?
What’s Your Approach to a Problem? Do you use that intervention or that one? Can you approach a problem as if seeing it for the first time? Or do you always approach a problem with some background knowledge, which is Desire?
From childhood, we are conditioned in problems. We go to school to learn how to read and write. Right away, the child feels pressure & tries to please others. It becomes a problem and our brain is conditioned in problems. The brain begins to look for problems. Years and years of repetitive behavior. It is ironic because society looks at mastery of behavior like it sports. Then, we go to high school, college, PHD, it is still a problem. So our brain is filled with problems. Every culture has its own set of problems. Can we see this, not as an idea, but an actual fact, and see what we can do?
According to the dictionary, a problem is something thrown at you, something you have to answer. So, while our brain is filled with problems, we try to solve them as if something is being thrown at us. Like in politics, a politician tries to solve a problem and in that solution, it creates a dozen other problems, and he doesn’t want to solve a dozen problems and goes and tries to solve a different problem, and so on like this. So, we create more problems in the solution of the original problem.
Is it possible to un-condition the brain? If you say, “yes, it is possible, or no, it is impossible, you have already blocked yourself.” You can’t investigate unless you keep an open mind. Is the Brain separate from the Me? Is the Observer different from the Observed (brain)? Am I my quality? My anger, my jealousy, my greed. . . Is Anger me? I am my Anger. Can the Brain stay with that fact? When it can stay with that fact, you have no conflict. What do you have: Attention? Then you have broken the pattern of the brain.
We try to solve problems with a brain that is already filled with problems. Can our brain, which is so active and alive–judging, chattering, etc., can the brain stay with this fact. I am my quality, my anger, jealousy, all the rest of it. Because the minute you are separate from your quality, there is a controller and a controlled. And there is conflict. But if you can stay with that fact–that you are your quality, you have no separation. When there is no separation, you have no movement. Where there is movement, you think: “I must go this way or that way. What is implied in no movement in that is “Attention.” Then you have un-conditioned the Brain.
Guilt–we put it to the side because we had to see that it is not a problem. It is not something to be gotten over. It is a fact. You have done something, it is a fact. You feel guilty, it is a fact. And you stay with it. With stillness, you stay with it. You study it. You observe it. You are not separate from it. You don’t have to do anything that is not separate from you. Otherwise, if you feel it is separate from you, it feels like you need help dealing with it. You see all of its subtleties, where it hides. It is like a jewel. You see all the points and you are the center of all this. It is a rather unpleasant jewel, but it is still your jewel. And you stay with it. Like a flower. Seeing the fact is like the seed. And you let it grow. If you pull at the roots, it won’t continue to grow. So, please pay attention, you see the fact, you let it grow, and it will bloom and wither away. You can do this with any issue: sex, god, anything.